I am impressed. Yes I know I didn’t lose anything but I was so afraid I’d jump back up to the 200 mark. This just means I am below and on the good side going down.
I have to ask a question to all the spouses of the people losing weight. If I could even just get one or two answers maybe I could understand something. So here’s the question…
Are you afraid, either thinking about it or not, that if your spouse loses the weight and becomes healthy and happy that things between you will change?
Reason I am asking, this past weekend Jim and I were chatting (really arguing about dumb stuff too) and again for the 10th time at least he said “I loved you when you were heavier”. He has yet said he’s proud of the weight loss, he won’t discuss any part of it really (occasional he’ll say my clothes are to big or something like that). I have the up-coming 5K and I would so love his support but nothing. Now I just don’t understand so thought if I could have a bit of insight from a few different people just maybe it would help me understand and know just what to say. I would never in a million years go any where, leave him or anything like that. I’ve been married for 30 years, I’m happy. I have told him this and I have told him I’m losing the weight to be healthier, to have longevity in my life. But something is up and figured since this is the most recent change I’d start here.
Okay, it’s onward and upwards from here. I have given this weekend to the Lord, I am not going to dwell on the has-beens when I can’t change them anyways. Just see if I can help the what if’s if I need to.
Thank you for letting me sorta vent and question things.
I’m not changing my ways now, I’ve come to far and I want to see this challenge to the end, another 17 lbs to go. I want to be the healthier me, I want to be the prettier me, I want to just enjoy and I want Jim to understand and be part of it all.
Take care everyone and please if you’re spouse is losing the weight don’t worry, they aren’t doing it to hurt you…it’s to help them be better for you. God Bless you all!!